Choose wisely

January we find ourselves full of energy ready to tackle our new habits new goals for the new year.
As the month comes to a close many will let those habits fall by the wayside and give up on those goals.
Why? What happens? Are we lacking “willpower” or just undisciplined? Perhaps the answers are not that “superficial”. Maybe the “whys” lie in the way we have set ourselves up to fail in lack of planning appropriately and in mindset. If you know me and my thoughts on “willpower” you know I think it’s one of the biggest excuses we use. It’s a little lie we tell ourselves to justify our failure our quitting another attempt in the new year.
You and only you are responsible for success or failure. Below I suggest a few ways to be more successful this year and beyond.

Are your goals achievable? I cannot tell you how many time a potential client comes in with their new goals and they are completely unrealistic. Oh it’s not that I don’t believe all you may be capable of achieving yet you set yourself up to fail by biting off more than you can chew. Goals take time. New habits take time. That is why daily and weekly goals are so important. Daily/weekly goals that push you towards your largest goal. I call these stepping stone goals.
One must lay out a plan not just a looming goal.

Self talk. Mindset. Attitude. CHOICE. Those all matter. Psychologically speaking self criticism weakens our resolve. It chews away at the edges of our confidence and resilience. Make a daily routine of positive self talk and embracing your faults. In other words have self compassion. Success is not a straight line it’s a series of twists and turns and hills.

Know your saboteurs your setbacks your obstacles your forks in the road and align yourself with the tools to overcome these. Don’t go into a battle unarmed. Again have a plan on how you will deal with such things. If you anticipate these you are less likely to become frustrated and quit.

On the topic of willpower….. there is no such thing.
It’s about CHOICE. EVERYTHING WE DO OR DO NOT DO BEGINS WITH A MENTAL CHOICE.

Ask yourself “Is what I’m choosing now today in this moment in alignment with the outcome I want long term?”
Choose wisely.